Since announcing the gender of our little guy, I have to say one of the most common things I hear is "Are you upset he's not a girl?"
I don't really know how to answer this question, to be honest.
I mean, sure there is a part of me that wanted "one of each" or to have the experience of raising a girl, or even the superficial part that wants to buy cute little outfits and accessories.
But honestly, it's pretty awesome to be having another boy! I mean, we have so many clothes from Peanut that we really don't have to spend too much money on buying new clothes, which is awesome. Plus, having 2 so close in age I think it's awesome that they are brothers. There is a bigger chance they will have the same interests, and that means that most likely (but not necessarily) we will get to avoid a lot of fights over whether or not we watch a princess movie. It means having a house full of my boys to take care of, to hang out with and to love. Well, Kitty is an exception, but honestly she doesn't really count...
I do understand that some people do experience disappointment. And what I really think they are experiencing is the loss of that possibility. Finding out you are expecting a little boy means that girl you've imagined in your head or in your dreams or in your prayers is not going to be at this moment. And that can be tough, I know. But while I may have felt a tinge of that this time, it was not really the big deal that most people assume it is for me. That may have been because I had a pretty strong feeling this new little one was going to be a boy so I had less of those dreams...I don't know for sure.
I know that it would have been awesome to have a little girl. But I also know that it is equally awesome to be having another boy. Gender matters so little with children. What really matters is that they are mine. And that they are healthy and happy. And it's impossible to imagine wanting my family to be any different.
And for those of you who missed our gender reveal on my Facebook page, here it is!
When I first found out my second boy was a boy, i cried for a minute, and then realized all the fun boy things that Daddy, brother and brother will get to do together. And while they are doing all these fun boy things, I will get to do fun mommy things. Plus, Ill get to do fun boy things too, without having to worry about a little girl who doesnt want to go hunting, or out in the mud getting dirty. Besides all the gender stuff, healthy babies are the most important thing. Not gender! :)
I love your gender announcement pic! I only have 1 bubba so far but I've noticed with friends that announce their second is the same gender as their first, everyone (even I sometimes!) assumes that they are disappointed. Like the above poster said - a healthy baby is the important thing :) Congratulations on your little boy!
Congratulations on your baby boy! People need to realize the most important thing is that they are healthy. And a mama's intuition is always right, so I love that you knew it was a boy. We'll see if mine is right in another month! ;-)
I'm Amy, and I'm a Mommy with nary a clue as to how to do this whole "parenting" thing. As a former traveler, I view this as another journey, although this time without a map, a plan or a clue! We call Canada home.
When I first found out my second boy was a boy, i cried for a minute, and then realized all the fun boy things that Daddy, brother and brother will get to do together. And while they are doing all these fun boy things, I will get to do fun mommy things. Plus, Ill get to do fun boy things too, without having to worry about a little girl who doesnt want to go hunting, or out in the mud getting dirty.
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I love your gender announcement pic! I only have 1 bubba so far but I've noticed with friends that announce their second is the same gender as their first, everyone (even I sometimes!) assumes that they are disappointed. Like the above poster said - a healthy baby is the important thing :) Congratulations on your little boy!
ReplyDeleteyou're so right that gender really doesn't matter that much. Yay for babies!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your baby boy! People need to realize the most important thing is that they are healthy. And a mama's intuition is always right, so I love that you knew it was a boy. We'll see if mine is right in another month! ;-)
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